Archive for the meme Category

And an M.A. to the wweirdo on the left with the ponky-knots with a garden on her head….

Posted in blogging, creative / writing, employment, london, me and my world, meme, morecambe, pagan, work/life balance on October 31, 2007 by Khlari

Yep. Official. I did it. I have passed my M.A. I am now officially a smart-arsed weirdo woman. Two years down the line, here I am, M.A,. in hand. Now what do I do with the damned thing????


Bela Lugosi’s Toenails!

Posted in blogging, books, child kidnapping, creative / writing, Dalston, employment, family law, France, glasgow, gothic, hen night, international family law, london, Marie Lloyd, me and my world, meme, migraines, morecambe, movies, music, music hall, pagan, penguins, Rocky Horror, Sylvia Plath, travel, werewolves vampires and ghoulies, work/life balance on June 14, 2007 by Khlari

I am going to steal an idea from SurlyGirl here. Have you ever noticed on your feeds how people have come to your blog through arcane google searches?

Think about the penguins. Those penguins gave me more readers than I could have dreamed of. Surly Girl’s experience was about Sarah Beeny’s tits……Therefore I am going to make the rest of this post up with arcane statements and see how many more bizarre readers I get through mentioning them…….

Let’s see….

Ditta von Teese’s bellybutton maybe. That might be a good one. Or maybe with the penguin theme…..Penguin kinky sex.

What about Pagan Penguin Perversion probably get three hits for the price of one on that one.

Dragons seem to get lots of hits on mine too. Lets use Dragon Penguin Morecambe Hussy. From the last couple of days we could have Victorian Cauldron Gestapo Frida Kahlo. Or Pentacle Penguin Happy Fairy. Or Gothic London Penguin Post. Maybe Marie Lloyd Mabon Billy Bragg.

Frequent ones are Gothic, Fairy, Penguin, Pagan…..but some of them it is honestly unfathomable how they get to me. Maybe this could rival googlewhacking- with the person who gets the most hits from the most bizarre things winning?

Write Me Happy #2

Posted in blogging, creative / writing, me and my world, meme, morecambe on June 5, 2007 by Khlari

TrashCanDan gets a namecheck here for continuing with the Write Me Happy meme that Spicy Cauldron started… can find it at

Musings of a Damaged Mind

Write me Happy!!! (That’s Damn Scary)

Posted in blogging, creative / writing, France, gothic, london, me and my world, meme, morecambe, movies, music, pagan, work/life balance on May 24, 2007 by Khlari

Mr Spicy Cauldron has set me a meme challenge as I am apparently a miserable old goth-bat…..

“Now, I have a meme for you to start off. I’m calling it Write Me Happy. You have to write a post that ONLY contains references to the things in your life that make you happy, contented, fulfilled, etc etc. NO NEGATIVES. Tell the world some good stuff in your life. At least two decent paragraphs. No one-liners. No snappy sentence and that’s it. “

Alright, here goes with it……things that make me happy.


It’s basically my kind of religion. I was brought up being dictated to about what you should do and believe, how and when you must do it. Paganism has an inner liberty, an inbuilt freedom where everybody can find and follow their own path, and there is no empirical ‘right’ or ‘wrong’. There are no ‘experts’ and everybody’s knowledge and experience are valued equally.

Paganism doesn’t throw guilt onto everyday activities such as sex, it is celebrated as part of the human experience. There is not a fixed morality, but a code of give out what you would like to receive back. There is also nothing like the special feeling you seem to get amongst a group of pagans, a certain shared intimacy, a warm glow, a creative buzz……..


I love my friends, I really do. They put up with me wittering and being a drama queen and part-time psycho-bitch . I like to share, and unfortunately that sometimes includes the v bad times as well as the good times. My friends have been my rock, they have saved my sanity when everyone else gave up.

When I think of my friends I have a nice warm feeling in my tummy, and mental pictures such as Mr SC drunkenly playing ‘I have never’ and rambling about ‘The Faraway Tree’ at 5am in the Morecambe (and all of us joining in….) or lying with my head on Matt and talking rubbish about Marc Almond with Mart Mia and Jack til the sun comes up. Punting drunk with Catherine in Cambridge on the day of our ‘O’ Level results, singing nursery rhymes in Transylvania to the bears with Peggy, drinking jasmine tea in La Defense with Cathy, Christophe and Linda….friends to me are important, and should be cherished. I think most of them know that I would do anything for them, and once my friend, always my friend.


I know that on the whole, I probably write an immense amount of pure drivel, which some misguided individuals occasionally choose to read. (You can get medication for it you know). Oh yes- am being fluffy, nearly forgot. There is nothing like the pure adrenaline buzz that you get when you put something down on the blank page and it begins to make a story, a narrative, a poem. It seems to suddenly form itself.

Writing take on a life of its own, it suddenly begins to live apart from its maker…there is an amazing feeling when something you have written is actually on the printed page before you…..and I love doing it- cathartic, mind-changing, deranged (often), a playground for thoughts and ideas…..


I love to paint, although it has almost been so long that I have probably forgotten how to hold a paintbrush by now. Painting was one of my first loves, and one of my eternal dilemnas has always been what I do about this…..I am unable to make a decision, I love to write and I love to paint, that’s how you end up on a stpid degree like Art History- because they won’t let you do one in Writing and Painting!

My writing is quite dark, so I guess that my painting shows the other side of my personality. In print I am all doom and gloom and gothic, but in paint I am light and bright and extreme… now you can see where all my happy thoughts have been hiding…had to stop when M____ was born after an experience involving M___ and a jar of neat turpentine….oil painting and babies don’t go! I paint LARGE and in oils, which is also kind of limiting, as that requires space! I’m just arty-person basically – I also love to do ceramics, sculpture, collage, screen-printing….all those non-money making skills!


You can never have too many books. This is true, never, ever, have too many books. I love books. I sometimes go and stand in second-hand bookshops and sniff. You can tell by this statement I am very very sad indeed. Books have been my constant companions in life. I have been able to read since I was about three, and it has always been my favourite thing to do.

I have discovered all sorts of things from reading, it makes me laugh, cry, find new worlds, explore other cultures…..Books are always there for you, however you feel and they can transform any mood in an instant.

Mr A and M_________

Yes I moan about them I know. Mr A has now been in my life for almost a year, since Dam and Woo’s wedding in fact. He has, completely, changed my life. He has made me feel so much better about myself and my life, he supports me in whatever I do, he gives advice not criticism, and above all, it is important to him whether I am happy or not. A year down the line, I still fancy him like a sad teenager, and am still finding out things about him. He makes me laugh, he shares in the good times and the often difficult ones, and he is full of surprises. He loves M_____ and she loves him back without prompting. I just love him very much.

M_____ is an amazing little girl. She has gone through so much in her short life, she has been to almost as many schools as she has had years on the planet, she has changed countries, towns, cultures……. She is fiendishly intelligent, frighteningly self-sufficeint, and wildly opinionated! She is bright and beautiful, with a naughty twinkle in her eye. I don’t know what I would do without her.

Without either of them in fact……

There Mr SC and not a fluffy bunny in sight!

I tag…………….

Kitty @Kitty’s Ramblings

TrashCanDan @Musings of a Damaged Mind

Amethyst Dragon @ Musings of a Purple Dragon

Beaut1ful @ My Place

Silent Fruitbat @ Silent’s World

Thinking Blogger Awards

Posted in blogging, creative / writing, France, gothic, me and my world, meme, morecambe, music, pagan, werewolves vampires and ghoulies on May 15, 2007 by Khlari

A much much belated thank you to Damian at Be the Change, Tread the Path who has nominated me for his Thinking Blogger Award. This idea originated with Ilker at The Thinking Blog, and you can find the original idea here. Unfortunately this happened the other week when I was lying on the chaise longue going urrrrgh….. (I was a little bit ill and ooky). So I haven’t thanked him as soon as I should, or nominated anyone else as soon as I should!

Damian in his nominations spoke about the pentacle, the power of five with the ‘sacred space’ in the middle. I think that the image of the pentacle and what it stands for also symbolises the balance neccessary to make someone a thinking blogger- they should have a little fire, a little air, a little water, a little earth, and a little spirit… the people that wrote them!

First up, well it had to be Spicy Cauldron didn’t it- the man that I’m afraid, is responsible for all of you having to put up with me in the first place. His blog has the power to make me laugh, cry, share up and down time (and get a little green around the edges about his poetry)!

Second would have to be MsDemmie at Life at the Edge– another person who has the capacity to clam me down or wrench my emotions, to make me howl with injustice or cheer in solidarity…her blog covers so many topics, all of them entertaining and well written

A new one in the list would be Tinkerbell NL, the adventures of a witch from the Netherlands…which gives me the warm glowy feeling that there are other cyber pagans out there in the universe of life and the net doing the same things we do and thinking the same thoughts we think……

My next choice would have to be the words and the pictures at Kitty’s Ramblings. Kitty’s words mean as much as her truly glorious artwork!

Last but not least that naughty kitchenwitch over at Musings of A Purple Dragon that is AmethystDragon WHEN she gets some entries posted, they show all of her personality…….mad as a hatter but we love her for it…the person responsible for me ever coming to Morecambe, if I hadn’t talked to her on Vintage Gothic one day, I’d never be here now!


Andy @ The Spicy Cauldron

MsDemmie @ Life at the Edge

Tink @ Tinkerbell NL

Kitty @ Kitty’s Ramblings

AmethystDragon @ Musings of a Purple Dragon

This is how it all works, from Ilker.

Should you choose to participate, please make sure you pass this list of rules to the blogs you are tagging. I thought it would be appropriate to include them with the meme.

The participation rules are simple:

1. If, and only if, you get tagged, write a post with links to 5 blogs that make you think,
2. Link to this post so that people can easily find the exact origin of the meme,
3. Optional: Proudly display the ‘Thinking Blogger Award’ with a link to the post that you wrote (here is an alternative silver version if gold doesn’t fit your blog).

That was that! Please, remember to tag blogs with real merits, i.e. relative content, and above all – blogs that really get you thinking! It is the first time I am starting something with my blog so I hope it doesn’t come back to haunt me.

Happy link-love-sharing, whatever it is!

From MeMe to YouYou

Posted in blogging, creative / writing, gothic, me and my world, meme, morecambe, movies, music, pagan, werewolves vampires and ghoulies on May 14, 2007 by Khlari

AmethystDragon and Kitty have now taken up the challenge…or should that be set me the challenge of setting them five questions in the Meme started by Howard, passed on to TrashCanDan, and then to me…….

Link here for Kitty’s interview

The TrashCanDan/Khlari Interview

Posted in blogging, creative / writing, me and my world, meme, morecambe, movies, music, pagan on May 11, 2007 by Khlari

Thanks to TrashCanDan for this one…..I saw the idea on his blog, and it goes as follows:

Howard did a twist on the meme. He asked his readers to indicate they wanted to be tagged and then he would send them five questions based on his research into that person’s blog: He sent some to TrashCanDan. TrashCanDan sent some to me.

Interview Questions
1. You have such a way with words. Have you ever considered writing a memoir?

On many occasions, but the question would be, where the hell do I start? I have compromised, and am writing a novel, which is largely autobiographical, and tells a small part of one of the possible stories. Baddies be warned, if you have annoyed me in the past 39 1/2 years, you are not likely to come off well in this literary (?) epic. (The rest of you, fear not…this is a scathing expose in some areas only…your secrets are safe with me!)

I guess that the eventual plan is to subdivide it all into manageable chunks/novels, with a part of the ongoing stories apiece. So a kind of memoir, but one where the names of the perpetrators are (very) thinly veiled! That might even be the title…Thinly Veiled.

2. If I were to make it to you corner of the world, would we hang out?

Of course we would. All online friends I have met up with, I have liked in person as I did online, and as I know you too are a goth, I know it’s going to work out somehow! Some people I know through both, I have known Mr SpicyCauldron for years, and now we have an online relationship as well as a real one.

Hanging out in Morecambe for goths is a bit limited lately….the 12 year old ones hang on the museum steps in Lancaster, but I guess we’d be a little too old for that. I think you should come and reinforce that ranks of the old bat corner at Hydra and Dark Side of the Lune, with me and AmethystDragon. A large part of the room may be 12, but we have a better record collection- and better corsets. And we can still dance their arses off.

Mine’s a JD and coke!

3. Is there as much Drama in your Goth Scene as there is in mine?

Drama! She says, flinging herself onto a crimson velvet chaise-longue in the manner of Sarah Bernhardt. Oh dear yes. My life and that of those around me lurches from drama to crisis to disaster and back again. For a little taster in the last year we have had total clothes slashorama, possible adoption trauma, quinsy, possible child re-abduction, redundancy, torrid affairs………that’s just in the beginning. Not only are our lives drama-filled, you can usually guarantee that there will be at least one if not more on any social occasion (see Mr SC’s birthday, for example).

I think that Goths are just natural drama-magnets. I don’t think that we mean to do it, it just comes to us. Naturally. Either we want our lives to be as dramatic as our looks, or other people do. Sometimes, admittedly we dream of a mug of Ovaltine and bedtime, or a normal life, but mostly we just revel in it.(Actually, forget the normal life).

4. Why did you start blogging?

I could really lie here and say that I was suddenly consumed with a desire to share my wordly wisdom and stunning writing talents with the world. Or I could tell the truth and say that it is all Mr Spicy Cauldron’s fault.

One day, we were sitting around in my living room in Dalston (in London), with several million glasses of wine, and D and Mr SC were telling me how they were intending to realise their dream of moving back north for Mr SC to do his M.A. (Mr SC and I met in Manchester as students)

I told him I was very jealous. I said I’d been thinking about writing again, and doing my M.A……and he challenged me to do it. His way of bullying me into writing enough for my course submission and application was to set me up a blog template, and harass me until I wrote it. It worked. I ended up moving up before D and Mr SC, so 2 years later, here I am 280 miles further north, and like Mr SC at the end of my M.A. So I owe him a big thank you really.

5. Where were you the day Kurt Cobain died?

At the moment I found out, sitting on the sofa in Sylvie Debroux’s marble-floored living room, in Fleron in Belgium, not far from Liege, watching Canal+ News. I was on a European Union teaching exchange at the Catholic Teaching College in Liege at the time. It was the end of an era in some ways, the death of Kennedy for the MTV generation. We both just sat in stunned silence for a minute. Then Sylvie put on ‘Smells like Teen Spirit’ as loud as it would go. As did half the block.

Wanna play now? Here’s how:
Leave me a comment saying, “Interview me.”
I will respond by asking you five questions. I get to pick the questions.
You update your blog with the answers to the questions.
You include this explanation and an offer to interview someone else in the same post.
When others comment asking to be interviewed, you will ask them five questions.
Rinse. Repeat.